Okay back to my first love story:
We did hit a bump in the road. My former significant other moved, to another state. When I tell you I was devastated, I was completely devastated. I was very upset by the way I was told. I bring this up sometimes (I'm working on it), I was told on the phone. By my boyfriend at the time that he was moving. My heart was broken. Before this relationship, I had done long-distance relationships for a couple of years. And I was so happy to finally be with someone who only lived within a 20-mile radius of me. I didn't know how this was going to work. I live in New York and the farthest distance I've dated someone was at most two hours away from me. I didn't know if I had a 10-12 hour drive in me. I was scared. I was scared but I was also insecure. I kept wondering if I would be enough or if I was worth being in a long-distance relationship.
So we gave it a shot, we tried long-distance for a few months. And at first, everything was fine and dandy. We talked almost every day, we FaceTimed or called. It was perfect, and then life got busy. I went back to school, he was busy with work, and communication fell off. I am not playing the blame game here, we both fell off communication-wise. I don't remember exactly when it was but we had a FaceTime where we were honest about our feelings. And we both felt like this wasn't working and that we were better off as friends. I'm not going to lie to you, it was hard. You go from loving someone deeply, to being friends with someone. The thing is, I never realized you could love someone and still be friends with them. I had never, ever, ever, been friends with any of my exes after we broke so this was uncharted territory. It was hard to think about loving someone so deeply and then potentially losing them if the friendship doesn't work out.
The crazy thing is we talk more now that we did when we were dating. We are great friends now, he is actually apart of my tribe and I can honestly say he is one of my best friends. This is going to sound terrible but I think breaking up was the best thing that has ever happened to us. I know that my love has shifted as well. I went from loving someone deeply romantically, to loving someone platonically. So that's it, that's my first love story that turned into a friendship.
Another day as an adult (who was in love).....damn,
Tasha
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